Qualities of a Good Mentor from Debra - Good one!

People who want to be their best often seek out mentors – people in their profession who have “been there and done that” and are willing to share their experiences to the end of shortening the learning curve for the seeker.

1. Authentic – the mentor “practices” what he “preaches.” A good mentor will not only tell you what the best approach is, but is utilizing the approach himself. He doesn’t send you in one direction while he goes another saying, “you have to learn the hard way.” The purpose of working with a mentor is to learn from his mistakes.
2. Personally Involved – the mentor should take a personal interest in the mentoring relationship. She should get to know you, how you work, what your goals are, what your strengths and weaknesses are, and any other pertinent information that you (the mentee) believe to be relevant.
3. Listens – a good mentor will genuinely listen to your concerns and not be eager to get the conversation over. You shouldn’t be a list item on your mentor’s day sheet. He should know your current projects by name and be able to ask you, first hand, how things are going.
4. Continues to Learn and Grow – a good mentor knows that he couldn’t possibly know everything there is to know in any given field today – the world has become much too complex. Things change, people change, circumstances change – and it’s all great. A good mentor will remain open to new ideas and even try them.
5. Assumes You’re Great – a good mentor doesn’t assume that you’re a loser just because you are coming to him for advice. He recognizes that you have talent and are successful already, (otherwise, you wouldn’t be able to afford his fee!). At the very least, he should see your potential or otherwise not take you on as a mentee.
6. Builds You Up – A good mentor is tuned in, tapped in, turned on, and in their wholeness, they will uplift you. When someone fosters insecurity in you, they are not tuned in, tapped in, turned on, and they’re not a good mentor for you in that moment.

Before entering any mentorship/coaching program, ask for references and query them on these 6 attributes. If you’re not comfortable with the answers you receive, run, don’t walk, as fast as you can in the opposite direction!

25 Random Things about me!!!

I gave a try to think n put up 25 random things about me when I was tagged by my friend Janani over Face book. So the rules of the tag are:

Once you been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 25 random things, facts,habits, or goals about you. At the end, choose 25 people of be tagged. You have to tag the person who tagged you. If I tagged you, its because I want to know more about you.
(To do this, go to "notes" under tabs on your profile page, paste these instructions in the body of the note, type your 25 random things, tag 25 people (in the right hand corner of the app) then click post:)

Here we go.....

- I am blessed with creative thinking, being passionate about things that I do & fun-loving with pleasing personality

- I urge myself to be fit always & conscious about my health n beauty

- People always envy by looking at my hair texture - Lucky to be one ah!? ;-)

- It puts me off to the core, if people start bullshitting & even who can’t keep up their words

- I like tall n well-favored hunk possessing intelligence (I wish soon ;o))

- I am fairly good at organizing things well & looking forward to lead an organized life soon :D

- I am not all that gr8 cook but would love to be one soon

- I have learnt basics of karnatic music but ended up with singing western songs :P

- I enjoy networking and personally feel that I m good at…

- If I could be anyone, any time, I’d be a Pilot. I want more adventures

- I am fortunate enuff to cover most of d places within India but eagerly looking forward to fly overseas anywhere that comes my way

- I enjoy most of the sports but any day Soccer gives me immense pleasure ( Man Utd the 'Best Club' so far so good! :))

- Passionate about Sir Alex Ferguson's religious leadership style - A complete 'Package' of succeeder plus makes to play attractive football

- Topmost things that I blv in - One nurturing the mindset healthily without getting influenced by external things and other not to hurt anyone unnecessarily

- I always look for a person who strives hard in their life n comes up with flying colors

- Knowledge is my greatest treasure & want to possess more n more

- I used to draw cartoons, assist with cloth designing, apply bridal mehandis and now started up with pot n glass painting

- I've slowly started up blogging but wanna contribute more towards that by giving good insights to the people

- I would love to try different modes which are trendy and I m comfortable with

- Exploring to shopping malls n buying stuffs or long drives or even dancing drives me crazy anytime

- I love wearing skirts along with classy boots n cool sunglasses. Wouldn't mind to pick up if clothes made with thin fabrics or even that has with nice logo

- I just hate d way I smile while I am posing, Pathetic! :-X

- Snakes freak me out. No, seriously. They. Freak. Me. Out!!

- Happy to acknowledge my pal ‘V D’ & Sis who has lightened up my being to accomplish much better things in life

- Lastly, I am confident enuff to say - SOWMYA-IS-NOT-IMPOSSIBLE

Now its your turn :))

Some1 u love and Some1u like

In front of d person u LOVE, ur heart beats faster.
But in front of d person u LIKE, u get happy.

In front of a person u LOVE, winter seems like a spring.
But in front of a person u LIKE, winter is just a beautiful winter.

If u look into d eyes of d one u LOVE, u blush.
But u look into d eyes of d one u LIKE, u smile.

In front of d one u LOVE, u tend to get shy.
But in front of d one u LIKE, u can show ur own self.

When d one u LOVE is crying, u cry with him/her.
But when d one u LIKE is crying, u end up comforting him/her.

The feeling of LOVE starts from d eye.
But d feeling of LIKING starts from d ear.

So if u stop LIKING a person u used to like, all u need to do is close ur ears.
But if u try to close ur eyes, LOVE turns into a drop of tear & remains in ur heart forever...

When I asked God

When I Asked God for Strength He Gave Me Difficult Situations to Face

When I Asked God for Brain & Brown He Gave Me Puzzles in Life to Solve

When I Asked God for Happiness He Showed Me Some Unhappy People

When I Asked God for Wealth He Showed Me How to Work Hard
When I Asked God for Favors He Showed Me Opportunities to Work Hard
When I Asked God for Peace He Showed Me How to Help Others

God Gave Me Nothing I Wanted

He Gave Me Everything I Needed

- Swami Vivekananda

VERY SIMPLE STORY BUT VERY PROFOUND MESSAGE.

A Small thoughtful Story…

A boy and a girl were playing together. The boy had a collection of marbles. The girl had some sweets with her. The boy told the girl that he will give her all his marbles in exchange for her sweets. The girl agreed.
The boy kept the biggest and the most beautiful marble aside and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him all her sweets as she had promised.
That night, the girl slept peacefully. But the boy couldn't sleep as he kept wondering if the girl had hidden some sweets from him the way he had hidden his best marble.

Moral of the story: If you don't give your hundred percent in a relationship, you'll always keep doubting if the other person has given his/her hundred percent.. This is applicable for any relationship like love, employer-employee relationship etc., Give your hundred percent to everything you do and sleep peacefully