Know-Hows - 12 Simple Powers!!

While I was surfing the net found some beautiful wisdoms which were real good one n thought of sharing this piece of tips with my circle of friends - Worthy to mark them, carry out in our daily life for our betterment!

#1 YOU ARE THE CEO OF YOUR LIFE
No one is coming to save you. No one cares about you and your life as much as you.
Create your life in the way that YOU want it.

#2 LIFE LIFE CREATIVELY
The days of “I’m going to work at the company until I’m 65, then retire with a pension” are over. The days of “I’m going to get discovered and someone will create and manage my career for me” are virtually over. First, decide what you like/want/have a passion for, then figure out how to do it. Life is a work in progress - your goals may change as you go down the path.

#3 FIND A MENTOR
Some mentoring relationships happen naturally, some don’t. You may need to seek out a mentor. Look for someone you respect, trust, is interested to invest their time with you, and who you get along with well. Be the kind of person a mentor would want to work with: motivated, talented, someone with a good work ethic and open to ideas/advice/suggestion. Also, consider being a mentor to others.

How can a mentor benefit you?
A mentor will believe in your talents and abilities
A mentor will offer advice, guidance, counsel
A mentor will teach you
A mentor will be a friend, confidant, supporter
A mentor will inspire you
A mentor will help keep you on track - moving forward in a good direction
A mentor may refer you to professional contacts or opportunities

#4 FOLLOW THE BINGO EFFECT
The bingo effect is that “A-ha! That’s it!” experience we feel when something really hits home and feels right. Whenever you experience the bingo effect, pay close attention, especially when you’re considering choices of any kind. Use it as a guide for what direction to go when you’re building a life in music.

#5 A USEFUL EQUATION:
INSPIRATION + IMAGINATION + CHOICE + ACTION + COMMITMENT = MOVING YOUR LIFE IN THE DIRECTION YOU DESIRE.

Example:
INSPIRATION: I LOVE that. It thrills me.
IMAGINATION: What can I create in my life to do/have/be/express/experience/share THAT?
CHOICE: I choose to do/have/be/express/experience/share THAT.
ACTION: What steps need to be taken for me to do/have/be/express/experience/share THAT?
COMMITMENT: I commit to taking the steps needed to do/have/be/express/experience/share THAT.

#6 YOU WON’T GET SOMETHING FOR NOTHING
Effort/intention = result. Practice = you sound better. Paying the dues = getting the reward. Most successful people have a very strong work ethic. It doesn’t feel like work though if it’s born from the desire to realize your dreams and passions.

#7 NO ONE CAN BE YOU BETTER THAN YOU
Showcase what YOU do best, and what YOU love and who YOU are. No one does it better. Don’t be shy to do/be/act/think/listen/relate in the way that’s unique to YOU, complete with both the beautiful parts and the warts.

#8 DO YOUR BEST
Always. With everything. Never settle for “it’s good enough.” Settling for “it’s good enough” takes you out of in integrity with yourself. Doing your best, even if it’s not perfect, always makes you stronger and more fulfilled.

#9 BE EVER EVOLVING
Some of the best musicians in the world are some of the most eager to learn new things, continue practicing passionately, and explore new sounds and styles. Be hungry to learn something new. Study. Then keep studying, for the rest of your life. This is an important key to maintaining aliveness.

#10 YOU ARE THE CHOOSER IN YOUR LIFE
Your life is built by the choices you make. Very little in life is out of your control, and even within those situations you still have choices. Accepting responsibility for being the chooser in your life is very empowering. Notice how this manifests in language:

Instead of: I can’t go to the movie because I have to practice.
Say: I’m not going to the movie because I’m going to practice instead.
Instead of: I have to finish grading the papers on my desk.
Say: I’m going to finish grading the papers on my desk.
Instead of: This is really hard.
Say: This is a challenge.
Instead of: I’ll try to finish up that term paper tonight.
Say: I’m going to finish up that term paper tonight.
Instead of: I’m not very good at scatting.
Say: I’m going to practice scatting so I feel more confident about it.

#11 THERE IS NO SOMEDAY
You only have NOW. Whenever it was then, it was actually now at the time. And whenever you get there, it will be now then too. Deal with life and what you want now, not “after I graduate,” “once I make enough money,” “after I’m married,” “when we have kids,” “once the kids have grown up,” “when I retire.”

#12 DO MUSIC BECAUSE YOU LOVE IT
Do anything and everything because you love it. Proceeding any other way steers you away from your heart’s desire, and leads you toward a life path of banality and dissatisfaction.

- Michele Weir

Qualities of a Good Mentor from Debra - Good one!

People who want to be their best often seek out mentors – people in their profession who have “been there and done that” and are willing to share their experiences to the end of shortening the learning curve for the seeker.

1. Authentic – the mentor “practices” what he “preaches.” A good mentor will not only tell you what the best approach is, but is utilizing the approach himself. He doesn’t send you in one direction while he goes another saying, “you have to learn the hard way.” The purpose of working with a mentor is to learn from his mistakes.
2. Personally Involved – the mentor should take a personal interest in the mentoring relationship. She should get to know you, how you work, what your goals are, what your strengths and weaknesses are, and any other pertinent information that you (the mentee) believe to be relevant.
3. Listens – a good mentor will genuinely listen to your concerns and not be eager to get the conversation over. You shouldn’t be a list item on your mentor’s day sheet. He should know your current projects by name and be able to ask you, first hand, how things are going.
4. Continues to Learn and Grow – a good mentor knows that he couldn’t possibly know everything there is to know in any given field today – the world has become much too complex. Things change, people change, circumstances change – and it’s all great. A good mentor will remain open to new ideas and even try them.
5. Assumes You’re Great – a good mentor doesn’t assume that you’re a loser just because you are coming to him for advice. He recognizes that you have talent and are successful already, (otherwise, you wouldn’t be able to afford his fee!). At the very least, he should see your potential or otherwise not take you on as a mentee.
6. Builds You Up – A good mentor is tuned in, tapped in, turned on, and in their wholeness, they will uplift you. When someone fosters insecurity in you, they are not tuned in, tapped in, turned on, and they’re not a good mentor for you in that moment.

Before entering any mentorship/coaching program, ask for references and query them on these 6 attributes. If you’re not comfortable with the answers you receive, run, don’t walk, as fast as you can in the opposite direction!